LISTEN MAN
Anthony Speeney | Life Coach
LISTEN MAN
Anthony Speeney | Life Coach
A Man's Transformation
from Struggle to Strength
I spent years hiding behind a mask, seeking approval,
until I realized the key to growth was authenticity.
This is my journey...
A Man's Transformation
from Struggle to Strength
I spent years hiding behind a mask, seeking approval, until I realized the key to growth was authenticity.
This is my journey...
Hi, I'm Anthony
I support men in their journey to personal growth and mental health mastery, guiding them to become the best versions of themselves.
I’ve been working with men for the past year as a men’s life coach as the Owner and Founder of Listen Man, LLC.
I was educated in the Jay Shetty Certification School for life coaches with the principles that all people are complete, resourceful, and whole. I coach under these same beliefs that every individual is the master expert on his or her life.
The priority of Listen Man is to provide every man the resources he needs to achieve the life he desires through a hard-working, no B.S. approach, honest feedback, building confidence through competence, and a community of like-minded men who similarly seek the sacred masculinity
Trapped in the role of a "good boy"
My name is Anthony Speeney and I grew up in a small town outside of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania in a family of 5 children.
Being raised alongside 3 older sisters to 2 Catholic parents, I became adapted to the seemingly predetermined role for me: a good boy who spoke only when spoken to, played nice - definitely not outside the lines, kept any concerns, disagreements, or problems to himself, kept my nose in a book and not in the dirt, and did what he was told.
A "good boy" turned into a "nice guy." I pursued the approval of anyone and everyone, especially those with whom I thought would turn around and validate my ‘goodness’ through covert contracts I had already written and signed inside my mind.
When being the "nice guy" became my prison
Eventually, these behaviors had become habits, and those habits became my personality. Good intentions at heart came out as selfish reasons to gain attention and approval from women, friends, and family.
I dealt with anger and internally suffering because I failed to recognize that my ‘good guy’ persona was blocking my true growth as a man.
My ability to take initiative, plan out my journey, communicate my own opinions and perspectives, and worst of all - regulate my own emotions had completely escaped me.
Setting sail on a journey of self-discovery
Around the age of 25, I had finally decided I had enough of the old way, but I didn’t know which way the journey was to set sail. I embarked on a new career path as a traveling nurse.
Many complimented this choice! Most commonly heard was, “you are so smart for doing that! Getting to use your nursing degree and see the country!”
What most didn’t know (or failed to listen to) was that I was choosing a journey of self-discovery. I had never been alone in life - either in relationships, friendships, or proximity to family and friends through high school and college.
If I wanted to know who I truly was, I had to discover the authentic me in the world free from all that I had ever know in Southwest Pennsylvania.
Running from myself with no place to hide
Years of venturing around the country in my nursing career were such a blessing I am very grateful for. Friends, sightseeing, and opportunities I never dreamed about were only the tip of the iceberg.
Yet, I continued learning lessons throughout the 6+ years of my adventures that no matter where you go, if you’re running from yourself there’s no good place to hide.
Still, I struggled to maintain my mental health. Still, I disregarded the validity of my feelings of fear, rejection, and abandonment that I had from my early years. Still, I lacked a vision for my life.
No Magic Moment—Just a Hard Truth
This is the part of the story where I tell you that a magical moment happened where I had a coming to Jesus moment, where some guru of the mind stopped me and said “son, listen here.”
That would be a lie. What really happened was I became unable to look at myself in the mirror because I knew I was letting myself down. I didn’t say family or friends for a reason - they knew I cared and would make anything happen for them.
I knew I let myself down because I could no longer ignore the self-loathing, indulging into unhealthy habits to numb my anxiety, staying stuck because of my inability to get out of my own way - continuing to live through the same lens as the "good boy" who ignored his own needs for the satisfaction of others.
Choosing Growth over Comfort—the Hardest Path
Things could never be the same. I began challenging myself more than ever to push my edge, work through the anxiety, become addicted to honest self-assessment as opposed to pleasing others, speaking my truth, and living an authentic life of purpose that I was destined to live.
Struggles and resistance ensued - you don’t just decide things will be different and it magically happens like you’re choosing a character in a video game.
The voice of the past - of the familiar - came calling often to “turn around and go back” because living the life created for you is much easier and simpler than the life you wish to create for yourself.
Breaking Free from the Lies of "Manning Up"
This stage of self-development is where many get stuck or worse, turn back. Not having experienced an overhaul in your personal life, multitudes of men go back to the familiar because it feels right.
Working on yourself and gutting the parts of you that you don’t like is painful and sometimes very overwhelming. As men, we tend to hear the inner societal masculine voice that calls us to “man up,” “be a man,” or “I don’t need help.”
These common standards of the past no longer serve the men of this age. In fact, they are destroying more and more men every day.
Empowering Men to Master Their Mental Health and Reclaim their True Strength
The mission of this business and my personal mission is to serve the world through engaging with men who, like me, lacked the confidence, resiliency, and skills to create the lives they know at their core they are capable of living, and in doing so, achieve
personal growth through the following:
Master their mental health through heart-mind coherence
Achieve elite level communication skills with family/friends, work peers, and their romantic partners
Connect to their masculine core through self-love, empowerment, and empathy.
Together, we forge a path to purpose
My goal is to connect men to themselves and likewise, to the world that quite frankly needs good men in it. As it is commonly said, “To go fast, go alone. To go far, go together.”
My hope for this world is to make life on earth a far and adventurous journey for as many as possible. Let’s journey together.
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