LISTEN MAN
Anthony Speeney
LISTEN MAN
Anthony Speeney
My Transformation
from Struggle to Strength
I spent years hiding behind a mask, seeking approval,
until I realized the key to growth was authenticity.
This is my journey...
My Transformation
from Struggle to Strength
I spent years hiding behind a mask, seeking approval, until I realized the key to growth was authenticity.
This is my journey...
Hi, I'm Anthony
I support individuals who have faced personal challenges stop defining themselves by their past and start living with confidence, direction, and purpose.
I started Listen Man in 2024 because I believe that we are all worthy of living our lives to the fullest extent of our dreams, and that abundance is available to all of us---even those of us who have struggled with self-confidence and personal trauma.
I was educated in the Jay Shetty Certification School for life coaches with the principles that all people are complete, resourceful, and whole. I coach under these same beliefs that every individual is the master expert on his or her life.
My mission is to walk with others who haven't yet met their potential yet fully believe that there is so much more that they're capable of being. I walk with those who have doubt in their ability to self-regulate their nervous system because all they have been told by the world is that they aren't good enough. I walk with those who know their biggest critic is the person staring at them in the mirror every morning and every night.
I am here to tell you the same critic is the same one who is waiting to be the hero in your story.
Trapped in the
Role of Good Boy
My name is Anthony Speeney and I grew up in a small town outside of Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania in a family of 5 children.
Being raised alongside 3 older sisters to 2 Catholic parents, I became adapted to the seemingly predetermined role for me: a good boy who spoke only when spoken to, played nice - definitely not outside the lines, kept any concerns, disagreements, or problems to himself, kept my nose in a book and not in the dirt, and did what he was told.
A "good boy" turned into a "nice guy." I pursued the approval of anyone and everyone, especially those with whom I thought would turn around and validate my ‘goodness’ through covert contracts I had already written and signed inside my mind.
When being the
Nice Guy became
my personal prison
Eventually, these behaviors had become habits, and those habits became my personality. Good intentions at heart came out as selfish reasons to gain attention and approval from women, friends, and family.
I dealt with anger and internally suffering because I failed to recognize that my ‘good guy’ persona was blocking my true growth as a man.
My ability to take initiative, plan out my journey, communicate my own opinions and perspectives, and worst of all - regulate my own emotions had completely escaped me.
Setting sail on a journey of self-discovery
Around the age of 25, I had finally decided I had enough of the old way, but I didn’t know which way the journey was to set sail. I embarked on a new career path as a traveling nurse.
Many complimented this choice! Most commonly heard was, “you are so smart for doing that! Getting to use your nursing degree and see the country!”
What most didn’t know (or failed to listen to) was that I was choosing a journey of self-discovery. I had never been alone in life - either in relationships, friendships, or proximity to family and friends through high school and college.
If I wanted to know who I truly was, I had to discover the authentic me in the world free from all that I had ever know in Southwest Pennsylvania.
Running from myself with no place to hide
Years of venturing around the country in my nursing career were such a blessing I am very grateful for. Friends, sightseeing, and opportunities I never dreamed about were only the tip of the iceberg.
Yet, I continued learning lessons throughout the 6+ years of my adventures that no matter where you go, if you’re running from yourself there’s no good place to hide.
Still, I struggled to maintain my mental health. Still, I disregarded the validity of my feelings of fear, rejection, and abandonment that I had from my early years. Still, I lacked a vision for my life.
No Magic Moment—Just a Hard Truth
This is the part of the story where I tell you that a magical moment happened where I had a coming to Jesus moment, where some guru of the mind stopped me and said “son, listen here.”
That would be a lie. What really happened was I became unable to look at myself in the mirror because I knew I was letting myself down. I didn’t say family or friends for a reason - they knew I cared and would make anything happen for them.
I knew I let myself down because I could no longer ignore the self-loathing, indulging into unhealthy habits to numb my anxiety, staying stuck because of my inability to get out of my own way - continuing to live through the same lens as the "good boy" who ignored his own needs for the satisfaction of others.
Choosing Growth over Comfort—the Hardest Path
Things could never be the same. I began challenging myself more than ever to push my edge, work through the anxiety, become addicted to honest self-assessment as opposed to pleasing others, speaking my truth, and living an authentic life of purpose that I was destined to live.
Struggles and resistance ensued - you don’t just decide things will be different and it magically happens like you’re choosing a character in a video game.
The voice of the past - of the familiar - came calling often to “turn around and go back” because living the life created for you is much easier and simpler than the life you wish to create for yourself.
Breaking Free from the Lies of "Manning Up"
This stage of self-development is where many of us get stuck or worse, turn back. Not having experienced an overhaul in your personal life, it is natural for us to go back to the familiar because it feels safe. Transforming your life is just that--it is going "above" as the pre-fix 'trans' indicates--above what you've always done; above who you've always been; above what you once thought was possible. And the most important truth you must keep reminding yourself--it IS possible!
Working on yourself and gutting the parts of you that you don’t like is painful and sometimes very overwhelming. This work comes from within, but requires support, empathy, and grace.
I promise you, YOU ARE WORTH IT.
Empowering Others to Master Their Mental Health and Reclaim their True Strength
The mission of this business and my personal mission is to serve the world through engaging with others who, like me, lacked the confidence, resiliency, and skills to create the lives they know at their core they are capable of living, and in doing so, achieve
personal growth through the following:
Master their mental health through heart-mind coherence
Achieve elite level communication skills with family/friends, work peers, and their romantic partners
Connect to their highest self through self-love, empowerment, and empathy.
Together, we forge a path to purpose
My goal is to connect people to themselves and likewise, to the world that quite frankly needs you in it. As it is commonly said, “To go fast, go alone. To go far, go together.”
My hope for this world is to make life on earth a far and adventurous journey for as many as possible. Let’s journey together.
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